Slow dance by David L. Weatherford

Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short,
The music won’t last.

Do you run through each day on the fly?
When you ask "How are you?"
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores running
through your head?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Ever told your child, "We’ll do it tomorrow?"
And in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time to call and say "Hi?"
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift…
Thrown away.

Life is not a race.
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before your song is over.

two_suns_in_the_sunset

Inner self is the docile gentle form. Like a ocean; calm, abundant, rewarding. If u ask he gives, if u dont he doesnt. But this ocean is confined to the limits of the body, the outer self. The self tht is a facade for the world; it may not be a true reflection of the self. So as the external pressure of the world increases, this outer self squeezes the inner ocean as it itself expands. Well the ocean obliges as much as he can till he reaches a point whr no further compression is possible.

Then comes the backlash; a violent expression of the true power of this infinite depth.

So somes the tsunami, devouring the outer self.

The outer self gets a reality check...

Finally, when the tide recedes to its peace, a new outer self emerges. But the contours have forever changed and perspective of life is redefined, very much different from wht it was before. This is the paradigm shift. And this flood happens periodically, much like the ice age. It changes life as we know it and the cycle of life continues with only change being the constant factor...

The outer self is the prevelant self but as it strives to be more 'acceptable', it erodes something innately beautiful, the something we call the inner self, the essence of being. As the worldly influence continues...just a small indestructible core remains; a core tht nothing can corrupt, erode or change - the nucleus.

The inner self still remains calm and the outer self continues to be the way he is, reveling in his apparent victory. A victory over wht he feels is a world tht really cares about him, about who he is; a world tht ironically is oblivious to his existence.

All this he does at the cost of the inner self, diminishing n condescending this sage entity everytime it tried to guide n counsel him. And so one day, when the outer self felt stagnation and reached a saturation point, that is a stage whr he realised the his current level of existence is something tht the world is not taking notice of....he strived to make the world notice.

He strived to be more acceptable and he did this in the only way he knew - by borrowing, almost plundering from the inner self. But this time there was nothing to plunder. So he tried to split the nucleus. He released the infinite nuclear energy - fission.

He destroyed his core. And in doing so, he destroyed himself. He knows not what he has done. Recognizes nothing and in this battle between the inner n outer self the outcome is inevitable the same.

One loses one self.

The inner self...the existence of which the outer self barely acknowledges...is undoubtedly the ethos of existences. His takes birth inside us because we keep compromising. But one day he decides to exert his power and assert his existence. He becomes powerful and seeks to capture the outer body and there starts a war.Invariable, the inner self takes over and makes the outer do things He always wanted to. Because of this, as the true animos is revealed and existence finds itself in the most awkward situation of not being able to make sense of itself and so the inner self quietly retreats to his eternal abode till the next time he is incited.

can we apply hooke's law to people?

The hooke's law states that stress is directly prop to strain till u reach a yielding point beyond which elasticity is lost - the break-point. Strain = change in dimension produced due to an external force acting on the body.

here's my opinion...This law applies to us as humans too and truth is im beyond my breaking point right now. But my friend Anurag disagrees... here's a gist of what v spoke of... (unlike most people who know me up-close n personal, anu insists on addressing me by my full name...just one of the things i love about him... :) )

Anurag: common yaar.....i think it doesnt apply to humans

Me: ...it does...

Anurag : ...coz materials cant change their inherent properties but we can, thanx to the one thing unique that we have - our WILL & RESOLVE.

Me: nope... with will n resolve u can malleate the external situation to suit ur core personality, v cnt change our core personality without damaging our existence

Anurag: disagree. damaging is the wrong word. u can always evolve into someone we all could be though at times we may not relaize it. Adversity could hone us it need not damage us or break us.

Me : well ur a dreamer n im more pragmatic

Anurag : may be... but i wish u more dreams

Me: oh cut the crap. very soon life will hit me. see this is hooke's law at work

Anurag : u know my views on hooke's law

Me : u just dnt know how the object will react to strain

Anurag: the only one who can make u yield i you yourself.

Me: true. i dnt deny it. but thts y i defined strain for u. strain= change in dimension i.e. the temporary or permanent increase or decrease in length &/or breadth &/or depth. these three dimensions can be seen in every person's character n this change is due to an external force acting on the body. if internal force of resistance is greater than external, well strain is temporary; if not, it becomes permanent n can be seen as the emtional scars on a person's psyhche.

Anurag : well said....

Me: so as hooke's law says - as the stress: increase, strain increases (dnt try to asertain whether the strain is temporary or permanent...thts a different ball game) till u reach the yielding point. beyond this, there's no way to predict hw the body will react - it may under go excessive strain even when subjected to very little stress or conversely, even excessive stress may yield very little strain since the body is now completely inealstic (akin to the person becoming emotionally dead)

Anurag : but Bhumika....life me if u look for justifying things u will always find some coz collection of Science, Arts, Philosohy, Medicine.....that human civilazition has gathered over years will always throw up something...but I know one thing.... before calling one;s life wrteched....we really need to see how wretched a life cud be....

growing up without limbs.....being aused as a child......losing your near-dear ones.....being physically violated...just think of how worse life cud be... and then look at urs and wonder...do u really need to damn your life or thank God for it

Me: nai yaar, apply ur logic here... only u are the parameter of hw 'wrethed' life is u can compare it only with urself, not others

Anurag : Nooooooooo, thats the papmered kid....Bhumika...who has lotsa toys but will throw tantrums if he cant get the one he fancies now. I thank God simply coz he has given me health. that gives me full freedom to chart my life the way I want. yeah in some instances...i may have to take tuff decisions.....but i can still do what i want but there are ppl who dont have thsi freedom - a man inprison for a crime he didnt commit....he is the one who shud think of reaching the break point...or a girl facing incest from those who shyud be her protectors...she should be scarred permanently...a man who lost hus hands or legs in an accident....he should worry of why life has been so selectively cruel against me

Me : ...here is whr i tell u leave it yaar...ok see - ur eg prove my point rather than urs!! my theory wasnt personal, it was made for people at large.

Anurag : No what u had was a law of physics....which u were trying to apply to life... but life is not science... but i agree we shud leave it coz being argumentative yields nothing. we are what we are and we dont change...for whatever one may say...unless we really wanna change ...hain naa

Me : Anu this will be a great blog. love u

Rudyard Kipling If

If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you; If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies, Or, being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise; If you can dream - and not make dreams your master; If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with triumph and disaster And treat those two imposters just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to broken, And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools; If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breath a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on"; If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch; If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you; If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run - Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

iv moved with kings n kept my common touch

iv been lied to yet not given into lieing

iv not let victory nor defeat affect me

iv filled every unforgiving minute wth sweat n blood of distant run

so whr is my earth n everything in it?

is it bcoz im a girl...i cnt be His son?

the impossible love

wht lie within Earth??? is it a dark sangfroid which feels no warmth,

be unperturbed by rain n seen by none but the loneliness tht doth inhabit these depths....or be the inflamed core-dazzling with hot brilliance tht incinerates mediocrity and purifies her...

sayeth the Earth - all within me manifests today the weather...i wish i could pour out like the clouds...hurl like the wind...roar like the thunder n let all that lies sublime precipitate n shed the load it can no longer hold....

beyond the grey lies a peaceful Elysian Plain..blissfully at peace...but not today...

today be the day sombre Sky looks down with melancholy mirth upon Earth telling her...here i express what you cant...

N so he showered her...for days n nights he expressed...

So sayeth Sky:quenched be thy thirst now?

In an untouched kissed the sombre petrichor mingled with the wind, Earth said: look not down or upon me;the stars are where u belong-the alekhya Aurora n Virgo await u...

if only Sky doth realize that the parched needs hear-no...i shall not relent...the rain shall continue...

the sun gazed on to see this uncanny bond...for it was nothingness that united and separated the two...for within him he knew wht shall be of the earth the day the sky doth falleth on her...

Dimaag Khap-ana

The Khap panchayat's diktats have become the fancy of mainstream pseudo-intellectuals much like a how a causes strikes a zeal in a rebel without one. No rational person (and for once I shall include politicians in this set) can justify the cold-blooded murder of a couple who eloped and married. But does that give sanction to a blanket statement against ban on marriage within the same gotre?
Now before I'm labelled as an extreme right-wing person, here is something you must consider...Gotre is nothing but a lineage which is traced back basically to the Sapt-rishis. So marrying within one's gotre is essentially marrying into the same lineage as the one you belong to. I would not pervert such relations by saying people of the same lineage are technically siblings but for all it's worth, it is a moot point. That not withstanding, there is a far more logical and scientific rationale for not marrying into the same gotre.
The lost knowledge of our culture was interpreted by the nascent Western civilization as mere folk lore without any sound basis, and we, being Indians, without any hesitation accept their ridicule of our very basic tenets of moral conduct. So I shall put forth the rational of not marrying into one's gotre making use of words and logic of genetics; ironically, augmented by a Christian monk, Gregor Mendel. The noble soul found out that there are traits are controlled by a pair of genes. So a person may have the gene for a deformity but may not actually suffer from it because the ill effects of this bad gene are masked by the dominant big brother gene which stands for all things good. The recessives can only express themselves if both genes of a pair are recessive.
The probability of two recessives coming together increases when the pedegral distance between two individual decreases. Put in simple words, marrying closely related people is a no-no if you want healthy kids. The Parsis are a classic case of the perils of inbreeding. It has left them weak and handicapped. Yes, we can turn a Nelson's eye to this and say it wont happen to us but given enough time, is it not possible that our genetic stock will end up impoverished, just like the Parsis? I mean, had the Parsis known this would be their fate, the forefathers of this culture would have definitely advised their brood against it.
Well, we're a bit lucky. Our forefathers knew this peril and gave a blanket guideline against marrying within the same gotre. I mean how many of us are interested in understanding the principles of genetics before we choose a mate?! Our traditions just made the job easy for us. Till now, we had no issues about having the aam without asking how much the gootli cost but a few wanna-be 'thinkers' have raked a raucous over the fact that a few yokels were enforcing this tradition. Albeit the yokel Khaps don't know genetics any better than most of us, they accept what has been passed down as traditional knowledge. So what is wrong with that? Would these loud mouth protesters endorse the principle of not marrying into one's gotre if Mendel is beatified and his principles stated as gospels? If they do, they should shut up and not interfere with wisdom beyond their comprehension.